“Letting Go”


It is hard to know when it is time to “let go.” While I was reading the article, it seemed to me that Sara and her family already discussed what to do with her life but they kept trying to prolong it. Situations like these make me wonder what medicine should do when it cannot save life. Sara kept trying to battle her cancer but the reality is that the treatments were not helping much at all; it was actually making it worse. Not everyone can handle situation in which they know they are dying and cannot face it but the way I see it, is that she should have enjoyed her last couple of months instead of trying treatment after treatment. Eventually there has to be a time to let go. I definitely got emotional at the end when her husband says “It’s O.K. to let go, you don’t have to fight anymore. I will see you soon.” It must be so hard going through something like that when you know your loved one wants to keep going and stay strong but in reality, there’s not much that can be done.

What to do when someone is nearing the end is totally up to that person. I believe everyone has the right to decide what they want to do when it comes to death and how they want to die because everyone’s situation is different. Medicine helps us live longer and bring a sense of hope to the family but some treatments and surgeries are really hard on the body which can make the patient worse. There is no win win. Sara wanted to die at home, not in a hospital. If she would have done hospice instead of treatment after treatment, she probably would have been more comfortable in a different sitting. Like the article says, “Hospice deploys nurses, doctors, and social workers to help people with a fatal illness have the fullest possible lives right now. That means focusing on objectives like freedom from pain and discomfort, or maintaining mental awareness for as long as possible, or getting out with family once in a while.” In the end, death is something that affects everyone involved and it is never easy but it is up to the patient when they realize that medicine is not going to save you, just let go and enjoy what you have left. 



2 thoughts on ““Letting Go”

  1. I agree with you about Sara and her family — Sara understood she was dying, yet she could accept that fact. Some of her family members were even in denial that she was dying. Sara and her family continued to pursue treatment options as if Sara could still be cured. While it is up to the patient to accept the inevitable, I think Sara’s physician did Sara a disservice. He continued to offer treatments instead of discussing how Sara wanted to live out the time she had left. This allowed all of them to continue down a path that would ultimately find Sara dying in a hospital in distress. It also left the family with the burden of knowing they failed to help Sara at the end of her life.

  2. I agree with what Amanda commented as well. The doctor was not necessarily looking in Sara’s best interest because all he did was offer treatments that were not even working for her. And just like you stated it is everyone’s personal opinion on how they want to die. Whether they want to fight until the very last day and take all these vicious treatments or if they want to lay in their own bed and pass without all the medicine and treatments it is entirely their choice. Unfortunately not all people are given this choice because the doctor or their family will not allow it.

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