Medicine vs Nature

Until recently, I truly have not analyzed the different aspects of dying due to terminal illness. This past February, however, I was forced to take these aspect into consideration suddenly when my Grandmother was faced with her last few weeks of life. I learned more about myself, my family, and mainly about the medical process of treating someone who is in their last few stages of life. This article did the same task of making me think and teaching me about the different approaches that are taking within each situation. So while reading the article “letting Go”, I was able to some extent, relate first hand to what each of the patients were experiencing because of the situation I was in with my family just a few months ago. Since the day my grandmother was admitted, we began the roller coaster of treatments and procedures to help cure her illness. She was first brought to the emergency room because of drastic loss of breath, she then spiraled down into a complete need for full medical attention. At this point, after given plenty of treatments and medicines, she was on the verge of being sent home  until overnight, she endured a stroke and was fully out of consciousness. Through weeks of treatments and full range of emotions from our family members, her feeding tube was removed at the moment we realized this was the end of her time and she was taken home. With hospice, we were able to spend her last few days with her as she fought through, but was unsuccessful as she passed peacefully with all 8 of her children at her bedside. The picture I’ve attached was the moment I realized the machines and medicines were never going to bring my grandmother back, we must let medicine give her peace while going through this process, but not prolong it.
After this experience, reading Letting Go was easier to comprehend and relate to than it would have been for me before my grandmothers passing. The feeling of knowing you don’t want your loved one to pass, but that there time has come is hard to understand. So when asked this question, “What should medicine do when it cannot save your life?” the first thing I did was bring myself back to the feelings I had during that time I went through this situation. In my eyes, I feel medicine should invoke a way for those who are terminally ill to be peaceful through their process of dying. In Sara Monopli’s situation, I feel that instead of her being treated as a guinea pig for theses new treatments, her husband as well as her, should have realized it was her time and let her enjoy your last few memories with her family. The feeling of having a loved one completely overtaken by medicines and medical machines is worse than simply letting them go naturally, in my eyes.Image
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8 thoughts on “Medicine vs Nature

  1. I really enjoyed reading your blog post for this topic. I believe you sincerely took the time to write out the story of your own and relate it to the story we as a class had to read. Your personal experience with the loss of your grandmother helped me understand medicines and treatments better when they are trying to prolong the life of an individual. I hope as the time passed on since the loss of your grandmother that you and your family grew stronger together. I am sorry for your loss especially with the way it had to be. I agree that medicines should make the last days, months, or years of a person’s life more peaceful. Also, you are very right now in the last sentence of your post. It’s so tough to watch someone you love undergo treatments and medicines that may or may not be working.

  2. This is probably one of the most sincere posts I have read. It was very hard for me to really grasp the article because when my mother got sick I was extremely young, and I really didn’t have a say in much. Medicine is so tricky because yes it can prolong someone’s life but at the same time it can also shorten another persons. In the last stages of someone’s life I can only wish that the machines and other medical equipment can bring peace and some sort of relief. I am so sorry for your loss, and I agree with Emily, I hope you and your family found strength within one another. Contrary to some people’s beliefs, medicine is not always a cure all.

  3. First, I want to say thank you for sharing your experience with us and also that I commend you for your courage and strength for following through with a picture! In no way can I relate to such an experience as yours, but I could only imagine that I would want the same for any of my loved ones. I also agree with you in that we should all try to understand that in most situations if medicine will not cure the disease then it should only be used for comforting purposes. Life is borrowed and we must give it back to God someday so why not do it with our personalities still intact… May your beautiful grandmother rest in peace.

  4. My sincerest regards to you and your family on your loss. I appreciate you sharing such a personal story with us to help us understand your point of view.
    On that note, I couldn’t agree with you more. Sometimes we have trouble coming to terms with the end of life and accepting the death of our loved ones. However, we should strive to keep their emotions and well-being in mind as we face tough medical choices regarding their treatment. It comes down to the quality of life vs. the quantity. In my opinion, a few quality moments is much better than a longer period of mediocre moments.

  5. Having been in a similar situation to this, I greatly appreciate your courage in sharing something very close and very important to you with us.
    Coming to terms with letting go and end of life decisions don’t really materialize into proper existence till we are actually facing a situation like this. Once you are in this situation, then the choices you make, and the finality of everything become imminent.
    Medicine was meant to heal, and doctors were meant to be healers: it would be very crucial if the healing process was reintroduced into the modern world, where the main aim of doctors would be to ease the pain people with life-threatening illnesses experience. It would be wonderful if doctors could prescribe treatments and remedies that would actually enhance the ‘quality’ of someone’s life rather than focusing on the number of years someone with a life threatening illness could live i.e. ‘quality’.
    Thank you for sharing once again, I’m very sorry for your loss.

  6. I really liked that you brought the prompt to a personal level. I’m in the same boat as you, in March, on my birthday, my grandfather who was hands down one of the people I was closest too in my family, passed away. But instead of even telling me my grandfather was in the hospital, my family decided that it would be best to hide it from me until I came home for spring break. Because of this, it almost felt like a dream, that it never happened. I never saw him, I never talked to him, it just wasn’t real. I am the only one in my family that wasn’t told right away because I was so close to him they didn’t want to tell me over the phone. And I am the only one still affected by his passing, which I blame largely because of not being part of the “last days”. I think it’s important to note how largely this part of the grieving process lies on this moment. It’s a moment that people proclaim love, peace, and other important things. Sara’s family and child will be apart of it which will help everyone realize the love they have for each other which in turn will be their last memory of her.

  7. Reading your post, it gave me goose bumps. I liked how to brought your own personal experience in with the topic of discussion. I too know what it’s like having to deal with losing a loved one and having to go through that “roller coaster” as you stated in your post.I am sorry that you had to go through that but with time things will get better. I also really like your picture that you posted with your post. It made everything come to life and put your words into perspective. Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with all of us. It’s really nice to know that you’re not the only one that has gone through such a heartfelt moment.

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