In class we talked about whether or not suicide is a selfish act. While I do support physician assisted suicide, I will never understand how a young or middle aged person can get to that point where they feel the only way out is to kill themselves. In my opinion, it is a selfish act. If you are not dying from a terminal illness or in chronic pain, then I do not think suicide is ever the answer. I feel very strongly about this topic because my father took his life when I was only four years old. It was three days before his 34th birthday. There was no suicide note. It is not fair for him to voluntarily take himself away from his family, especially to his four and seven year old children who needed him. It is a selfish act because people who commit suicide do not realize how much it will affect their loved ones. There are so many people who are dying from terminal diseases who would like to live and be with their families. It is unfair to those people who are not ready to die that there are people who are choosing to take their life by choice.
The first thing you think of after a suicide is why would they do this? How did I not see the signs? What if I could have prevented it? It is normal to want to blame yourself. Since I was so young when my dad died, there was no possible way for me to have known what was going on, but sometimes I wonder if somebody could have prevented it. I believe it is important that everyone become educated on the signs of suicide so that they may be able to save a life in trouble. Some common symptoms to watch for are personality changes, giving away personal and prized belongings, and depression. Severe depression is real, even though some people are good at hiding it. According to our notes, 90% of people who die by suicide have a diagnosable and treatable psychiatric disorder at the time of their death. My father was never diagnosed with a psychiatric disorder, but I like to think he had one as to why he took such drastic measures to end his life. Seventeen years later, I have learned to cope with his death, but I still get sad about it because he did not get to see me grow up. This class has helped me open up about death and how to cope with loss in a positive way.