Regret

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    Regret is all about being sorry for yourself because of something you did, or because of something you did not do. Either one can have a huge impact in your life. Often, individuals with terminal illnesses experience regret during those final few weeks or months of their lives. Sina Anvari talks about a nurse who reveals the top five regrets people make on their deathbed. After reading this, one of them stood out the most: “I wish I didn’t work so hard.” This means that people spend much of their lives working hard to make money and not spend time at all with their children, and wives/husbands. People take their family for granted. They think that they have so much time to do fun things later, and focus on their work. However they do not realize that life can be very short. It is full of surprises and can have unexpected events. One such event might be being diagnosed with a terminal disease, and that is when reality hits them. Terminal diseases not only come with end-of-life decisions, but also with the fact that many start thinking about their lives and everything they did. Many regret things, and others do not. However, the most common thing people regret is definitely not having spent more time with their family more.

     I have definitely learned many things from this class. However the most important one that I learned is to always try to spend time with my family. Whenever I think of them, I always remember the numerous holidays, birthdays and vacations we all spent together as a family. Even though there were fights all along, at the end we all forgive each other and love each other for who we are. Death is inevitable in life, and that is why we need to prioritize things. We need to know who is important, and try to spend as much time with them as we can.

     “At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.”

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2 thoughts on “Regret

  1. I will have to agree. One thing I noticed about being stationed overseas is that Americans work entirely to hard and long hours. My friends from which ever country I was in always asked why do Americans work so hard, why don’t you guys relax, or why don’t you ever take vacations. I literally had no answer.
    We do work to hard for long. My only guess is that this is what America was built on hard and long labored hours of work. Though I do not think it’s right. We do miss out on a lot of big things due to work. We just miss out on to much relation ships, family, memories, etc. Some times it’s the small things that are important and we need to focus on just that.

  2. Each and every one of these “regrets” are really true regrets in anyone’s life whether a person has a life threatening illness or not. When you are young, you do not believe this. I agree that a life threatening illness may bring about these feelings of “would have and could have”. As you get older the regrets which this nurse hears are things that many parents talk about and regret wholeheartedly. If you are young and reading this now, trust me on this: working hard does not bring you joy or security –it only pays the bills which are recurring and never-ending. Even with a fat bank account, many people still have this regret of working so hard. Especially, my advice to everyone reading this is to not work so hard when you children are under 18. These formative years are the best years of a parent’s life and you will never have those years to relive. Young people hear this but still make the same mistake of overworking while the children are young. Play with them and do not fret over the little things. As a mother, you can wipe up spilled milk but cannot undo words and actions. Having a life threatening illness must just compound these thoughts of where a person thinks they did wrong. So, go on vacations even if only half hour of riding horses or to a beach…and take lots of photos. If you get ill later, at least there will be some pictures to recall those healthy and happier days!

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