P.S I Love you

Death has always been a hard idea for me to grasp. The reality of the infinity of it is nearly impossible for some to understand; so in turn, our community turns to several sources to understand the idea better one mainly being mass media.

Usually, we naturally watch movies for entertainment. But what we don’t always see in these films/shows is that they create a fiction idea of what death really is. We are creating a reality of death through the eyes of directors and producers. Movies, where death is the main focus of the plot, such as ‘P.S. I Love You’, are perfect examples of how death is portrayed through the eyes of movie crews. In P.S. I Love You, the husband of a newlywed couple finds out that he has a terminal illness. After going through the motions of his death, the widowed young women finds herself depressed and unmotivated until she begins receiving letters and hints from her “dead” husband. The letters direct the women to go live her life, be happy, and even gives her every detailed instruction on how to do so, including plane tickets. While going along with this absurd new routine, the wife began to grow and do exactly the things she wanted to in her life. She did this all without her husband physically present but in her mind he was spiritually, through these letters.

Culturally, some scenes showed how the Irish deal with death being that the husband with a loving Irish man. While mourning his death at his funeral, the family took shots after each said their goodbyes and shared their experiences, the funeral then turned into a party with everyone celebrating his life. This showed me that in their culture, death is more of a celebration of life rather than something to be sad about. I think as Americans, we deny death more than we should as it is inevitable.

Despite the emotion and humor throughout the movie, when analyzing it, the film seemed to precisely show a literal meaning of death or the idea that although that person is not physically here with us, they are in spirit. As a literal meaning, I think the movie portrayed death as something that physically ends our time on earth, but spiritually we don’t truly dying in others minds or hearts. Personally, I am figuring out a way to deal with the physical loss of my grandmother, but I don’t feel like, spiritually, I will ever lose her. The movie helped me realized that instead of morning my Grandmother’s physical loss, I should be living as she wanted me to and achieving the things she expects me to as she is still alive in my heart.

American’s have a different view on death to some extent, than the Irish family did in this movie. The family seemed to accept the fact that the husband was going to die, instead of keeping him on countless machines and life support. Here in America, we seem to avoid the fact that death is natural and inevitable so we try everything in our power to stop the course of death. This proves how America in a death denying culture.Image