Understanding Loss

I took Death and Dying because I really wanted to learn about the emotional aspects of death. My father passed away 5 years ago, and I still get upset over it on a regular basis. I was hoping this class would help me to understand how people grieve, and that it is okay to grieve. 

When my dad died, it completely broke my heart. I was a daddy’s girl completely, and he died when I was only 13 years old. My family did not tell me all of the details about his death, so I was mainly left out of the loop. My dad had stage 4 lung cancer and never smoked a day in his life. I had a lot of anger for a while about his death because I thought it was so unfair. My dad passed away one year after his cancer was diagnosed and was on hospice in our home for the last three months of his life.



This class has shown me that it is completely okay and healthy to grieve. It is not okay to keep everything bottled up. This class has taught me the phases of grief, and that there is a “culminating period of acceptance” where the bereaved person moves forward with a life that is irrevocably changed. This is where I am. My life has completely changed because of this event, but I am still trying to move forward with my life. I still wish I could change it, but that is life. Loved ones are going to pass, and people are going to grieve. Our culture is a death denying culture that tries to not think about the death of loved ones or the death of themselves. Death is inevitable, so cherish the moments you have with your loved ones. This class has taught me to live every day like it is my last because you never know when it could be over. I am very glad I took this class because it has helped me understand my loss and my own personal views on death.